Maybe it’s just me, but something in the air tells me that toxic masculinity is still in the air and will still manifest amongst those who live by it. For those who are unaware of the term, toxic masculinity is the traditional cultural masculine norms that can be harmful to men, women, and children; a term commonly used in the realms of psychology. It’s almost the end of the first month of the year, yet there are still men, celebrities and common people, who seem to promote this horrible mentality. I’m a firm believer that in order to move forward in the community, you have to change your habits and you have to change the way you view people in your community. For some, that’s not a problem, for others it’s going to be easier said than done, and did the rest...will find this difficult, and probably won’t change.
I believe that moving forward in 2018, it’s not enough to write and talk about toxic masculinity, we need to take action and confront it head-on. We might have to take a look at ourselves, our family members, and our homies, even if we have been cool since elementary school. If you want to eliminate toxic masculinity, here are a few steps you can take.
(1) Stop denouncing someone’s manhood because they’re gay.
Let’s be honest, some of your homeboys are gay too, they just on the down low.
(2) Stop measuring someone manhood by stereotypes.
Masculinity is more than sports, going to the gym, and how many women you sleep with.
(3) Stop degrading women in front of your sons, or children in general.
Calling women bitches, hoes, and liars will only teach young boys to call girls bitches, hoes, and liars.
(4) Let men express themselves.
Don’t wait until your homeboy becomes famous, gets over 1,000 likes on Instagram, gets millions of views, or until his art plastered all over the city for you appreciate creative minds from a male. Let boys and men dabble in the arts.
(5) Stop calling men soft for expressing their feelings.
We love to call men “soft” or “babies” when they express how their feelings are hurt, but as soon as they get loud and violent we like to say they need “therapy”. Which is it? Pick a narrative.
(6) Stop flaunting your manhood every 5 minutes.
Ok. We get it. You don’t have a mensural cycle. You don’t have a vagina. You can pee standing up. Want a cookie?
(7) Stop being afraid to ask for help.
None of us know all the answers, and that's fine. You'd be surprised how much you can achieve when you just ask for a little assistance.
(8) Stop normalizing violent, abusive behavior.
Stop telling girls when a boy hits your or talks negatively about you, that it's a sign he likes you.
Anything else we can do to prevent toxic masculinity? Comment below.